It’s not easy being a Femdom out there. But, a good dominatrix knows the way to a client’s deepest desires, and becoming a Findom is an extension of that.
The world of financial domination is filled with scammers and fakes looking to make a quick buck. But beneath all the hustle and bustle of the surface, there is a real opportunity to make a steady income and engage in what you love as a Findom.
We’re here to help new Findoms find the best places to network and find their first paypigs without getting tripped up or lost in the crowd.
What is a Paypig in Findom?
A paypig is a derogatory yet playful name for submissives who derive their pleasure through Findom by being forced to give money to their dominant (consensually, of course).
The power dynamic that plays out excites the paypig because it humiliates them and causes them to lose control over one of their sources of power: their money.
It’s a niche in the BDSM community that’s been growing in popularity but has its concerns and problems, just like most kinks.
Using Kink Dating Sites to Find a Paypig
Findoms find their paypigs through findom websites, social media, OnlyFans, or Kink communities online.
For BDSM dating sites, you can try sites like BDSMDatingOnly.com that cater specifically to those interested in fetish relationships, including Femdoms and Findoms.
For these sites, you need to make a dating profile that highlights what you’re looking for and your interests, including your limits and boundaries. You can also use it as a place to explain what you’re looking for in a paypig.
Most BDSM dating sites have search filters that can help you sort through tags and keywords in members’ profiles. Unfortunately, most of these don’t work perfectly, but they’re a good starting point.
When using a site like this, you should be clear and upfront about your expectations. The more straightforward your profile, the more likely you’ll find what you’re looking for – nothing too fancy is needed here. It’s also the best starting point for a healthy BDSM relationship.
Trying Social Media: X (formerly Twitter)
Because Twitter allows adult content and is quite a popular social media platform, it’s become the most popular platform for femdoms and Findoms to advertise their services and provide previews of their content to entice potential subs.
One of the best uses of the platform is to provide a stream of content highlighting the Findom lifestyle. By posting engaging content consistently, using the right hashtags, and interacting with your followers, you can quickly build a dedicated following of potential clients.
Twitter allows for more casual, mainstream interactions, giving you access to the broadest possible audience. You can share all kinds of content, including photos, videos, and clever text. This should be used to give a peek into your persona, giving subs a taste of what they can expect from you.
Using OnlyFans
It’s no secret that OnlyFans has emerged as the premiere website for offering homemade adult content to one’s target audience for a premium.
Just like with regular adult content, you can upload and curate kink content for whatever fee or subscription you’d like to charge on OnlyFans. This can range from just photos to full-length videos, personalized messages, and live sessions. It’s all highly customizable.
So, while OnlyFans is fantastic for monetization of your craft, the site doesn’t advertise its creators much. You’ll have to bring clients from other platforms, like X, Reddit, TikTok, or FetLife, to build your audience.
Joining the Kink Community: FetLife
You can also join one of the many online kink communities, FetLife chief among them. FetLife is a social networking site specifically catered to the BDSM community.
It’s a lot like Facebook in its basic setup, but obviously much more tailored to what interests the kink community. On it, it’s easy to meet and connect with lots of like-minded individuals, and besides online groups, there are also many avenues to discover and join real-life local events.
Advantages to FetLife for finding a paypig include the ability to write in-depth profiles that people actually read. You can then join in on discussions about specific interests related to Findom and groups dedicated to it. This is where you’ll find many people interested in meeting a good Findom.
Finally, you can use their local events pages to find real-life events worth attending for your search. Here, you can network with the locals and meet new potential clients in a safe and fun environment.
Building Trust and Setting Boundaries
Once you’ve begun the hunt for a paypig, building trust and setting clear boundaries are the next steps, regardless of your methods and platform.
Many inexperienced Findoms out there are just looking to take advantage of men. But Findom came out of a specific tradition of Femdom and is an extension of the practices and desires from there.
The best Findoms know how to create this power dynamic without being exploitative through a mutual understanding between them and their paypig.
Conclusion
These are just some of the most straightforward options to get you started on the right path. When you’re on these sites, search other successful Findoms to see their strategies. Don’t copy them, but seeing what’s trending and successful is key to getting your name out there.
Remember, there are pay pigs out there who are genuinely interested in finding you. It’s just about getting out there and being authentic with your services, and eventually, the piggies will find the truffles they’re looking for, oink oink!